Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
I think that following these rules would help you make more friends by becoming interested in other people. This will help you make more friends because you aren't trying to question yourself. And or asking yourself what you should do to impress people to get them to like you. Although i don't recommend this to everyone because some people are already able to socialize and don't need help.
"The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life."
By: Williams Morris
Rule 2: Smile
"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, " I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
" You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
" It creates happiness in home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Rule 3: Remember names
"A man's name is to him the sweetest and the most important sound in any language."
"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
"Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names."
By: John F. Kenedy
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
" If you aspire to be good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
" Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
I think that if you learn to pay attention and focus on someone it would help you become a good listener and help you to easily socialize with others. One thing that should help you a bit more would be to encourage the person you are socializing with to talk about themselves.
"A good listener is not only popular everywhere, but after a while, he knows something."
By: Wilson Mizner
1.Stay focused, natural eye contact, don't judge and stay patient
2.Really listen don't think about similar experiences and what you should say next
3.Allow the period of silence
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
"The royal road to a mans heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."(John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
I feel that if you can make someone feel important or at least special due to you speaking and or socializing with them you can easily make friends. Although i believe you should just get out and socialize by making an easy conversation would be better. Than having to make them feel important because if you have to make them feel important then whats the point of socializing. When it comes to socializing i would get it when you have to listen and remember names but that is pretty much it after that just be yourself.
Reflection: These six rules will help you make friends and or help you socialize a lot more and faster as well. Following these six steps will help you to understand another person a bit more. For example step 1 says to become genuinely interested in other people which means to talk about the person and not always make a conversation about yourself. Another example is step 3 and step 4 which means to become a good listener and remember names,subjects, and or topics you have heard during your conversation with another person. But don't always talk about the same thing, try to change things up a bit sometimes.
